Always Say Yes

A very wise and wonderful woman once told me that the secret to her half century marriage was 'Always say yes' yet modern magazines and the general consensus amongst woman kind is 'Just say no'. So which is the right approach?

Just saying NO is meant to empower you and give you control over the nasty, chauvinistic men of this world who want only to find the quickest and fastest route into your underwear with a complete disregard for road safety along the way.
It's meant to make you feel like you have choice over your behavior and that you don't have to conform to the wants and needs of your male counterpart. [as no self respecting person wants to conform to the man these days.. rebellion is cool, so I've heard]

But could it be that saying NO can get out of hand.

First you are politely but firmly refusing their offer to pay for dinner and your taxi home -I'm a woman with a job, why should they pay, we don't live in the 1920's!
Then outraged at his advances you say no to a goodnight kiss -I only wanted to show her I like her, I wasn't going to try and rip her clothes off on the doorstep!
Next you're refusing that second date, why? Because saying NO is empowering. So where has this left you hmm?

Alternatively we could look at the implementation of the NO technique within a relationship.

You say no to sex, to him going out with friends, to his request that you just try Call of Duty to see what it's like.. and just like that you have one angry man with nothing and you, the empowered woman are left wondering, why he doesn't seem to love you anymore?

The YES method can be applied in a reversed fashion, despite the obvious fact you may be agreeing to do many things you don't want to. Like taking a 7month trip around Asia in a canoe, or similar.
But as much as it pains me to say it and I am expecting a feminist riotous mob to come bursting through any second now.. could it be that the road to happiness lies in a man's happiness? AAHH don't shoot!

Perhaps I can put it less controversially and take it back to the start. The secret to a wise woman's 50 year marriage was Always say yes..
So the road to relationship success is pandering to your partner's every need? compromise? love? laughter? happiness? quiche? Who knows really. Certainly not me.

But it is an interesting thought to ponder...

The soon t0 be lynched Elf x